I think I've found something I think I enjoy as much as fabric shopping
It costs a bit more but it works on similar concepts, browsing, matching, falling in love and trying to fit colours all together. See just like quilting, except the husband has more input.....well we try to let them think they are having input if you know what I mean.
We have found a lovely cabinet maker who is on our wavelength which is making the experience so far enjoyable. The enjoyment may not last when I have to relocate my kitchen somewhere else in the house while we pull out the old one. Its going to be cold BBQing on the verandah but I'm prepared to work through the pain.